If it’s been 3 months and he is already saying he doesn’t trust you and doesn’t let you talk to other guys/guy friends, then this is a big start for a bad relationship and maybe even a short one. Trust is the most important thing in ANY relationship. The guy you’re dating has trust issues and insecurities. You need to have a talk to him about your feelings. You need to assure him he can trust you (if you feel confident he can). I’m sure you have assured him plenty but the fact of the matter is he is developing possessive traits around you, meaning he has control over you if you’re submissive and feeling guilty. This is YOUR life. Not his.

Have that “deciding” talk. Three months is an early time in a relationship. Both of you should be blooming in butterflies, flirting and love, not deteriorating in jealousy and guilt! You need to tell him it is perfectly human of you to socialize with friends even if they are men and vice versa. And you need to realize this is not worth your energy, stress, and heart! So do not feel bad. As long as both of you mutually trust each other hanging out with the opposite sex because both of you know you want to keep dating each other, then there will be no problem in that area. 

Hope that helps. Remember, it’s your life! Straight up.

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

You have to tell him you want him to stop seeing these women as a promise of respect. If he abides, then he is trying to improve your relationship. Although, from what it sounds like, it seems to me that he is not really committed to you. If it’s just casual between you two, perhaps you can have a good time with him and accept he’s involved with other women (meaning you can be involved with other men). But if you want a commitment, then he may not be the right guy for you. He slept with someone else while you were broken up, so why did you get back together with him? Perhaps he’s keeping these women around, because he fears you will leave him. Either way, if he can’t give them up for you, then you may not be happy together. You deserve trust and respect for your own good.

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

First off, are you sure it’s her clitoris? Because that’s quite uncommon for women to have their actual clitoris pierced! Having the clitoris pierced may cause pain and nerve damage. Many pierce the hood of the clitoris (the skin that covers the clitoris). There are two types: Vertical and Horizontal. The vertical clitoral piercing is most popular because the jewelry is rested on top of the clitoris which could enhance or stimulate an orgasm for her.

Secondly, you will have to be patient during the healing process because of risk of injury. This may take a little over a month.

Lastly, when she’s all healed up, this may be a potentially thrilling sex life! Research in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology found that seven weeks after a vertical clitoral hood piercing, women had higher sexual desire and more frequent intercourse than before. 

Hope this helps!

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

It’s 2012 and some of you may not care for the IDEA of “the new year” but for others, it may be the best incentive to kick-start the new and improved you. What I mean by that is, the relationship you’re having with your partner hasn’t been so perfect. It’s passed or nearing the 2 year mark and maybe it’s time for a change. It’s simple, you need to improve yourself and how you think, not your partner’s. But YOU. This is how:

• Be positive, be present. Positive meaning, don’t let things get you down. Things DO get down and appear not ok, and if you aware of that, you can move forward from it. Being present meaning by knowing everything that is happening NOW, not past, not future. Notice the things going on around you NOW. Your breathing, the sounds outside, etc. If you think this way, the little things that used to get you mad disappear.
• Tell your partner for the next 30 days at least one thing you appreciate about him/her. This could be spoken or even written. This is probably the best way to show and receive love between the two of you. 
• Learn to cook and cook new recipes! This is fun and peaceful because you are focused in making a good meal and the result is always a pleasure!
• Have a cleaning routine. Whether around the house or your car. They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. 
• Have a workout routine. Especially in the morning!
• Have a mutual agreement on saving up for a nice trip for the two of you—such as pitching in a little money every week.
• Be ABLE to go out with your friends without him or her. I know some of you out there who just HAVE to be with your partner at ALL TIMES. Well, again, that’s obsessive and possessive. 
• Make love and make sex fun. If both of you are not SUPER BUSY then I hope you two are being sexually active at least 2 times a week. If you two are usually busy working, etc, make sex different. If both of you are usually rough/fucking, then this time be loving and passionate. Look at each other in the eyes for at least 2mins straight. See what happens! 
• Control your anger. Control your jealousy. How? Be present and be aware. Notice your feelings and notice you SHOULD’NT be feeling that way. It may be best if you tell him, you need a few minutes to step away and you MUST step away. Then you can come back with a clear mind set. This can be tough especially at the heat of the moment but you need to improve this. Anger and jealousy are very unhealthy for your relationship and yourself. You know you hate the feeling, so leave it out.

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

So you haven’t been in a relationship in a very long time or not at all. You know the drill.

• You either are wishing you had one right about now or not even thinking about it at all. 
• You feel a little sad and a little lonely every time it gets a little quiet and you observe things around you.
• You think about the times you had with that one girl/guy. 
• You think about the times you invited that girl/guy over to your family who you really liked but for some reason it ended up as a fling. Now you kind of miss her/him.

Most of the same suggestions from BREAK UP HOLIDAYS apply:

1. Keep yourself busy with cleaning, prepping, playing games with the family.
2. Plan out your upcoming days. Grab a paper and pen, use your calendar on your smartphone for once. Or your iCal on your laptop.
3. Start jotting down your resolution list.
4. Ask your friends to hang out soon and plan the day. Enough of this flaky crap!
5. Suggest to go on morning hike or walk around the neighborhood with the family.
6. Ask to grab coffee with that one girl/guy that you missed after the holidays.

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

So you just broke up with your partner recently.

• You have weird, nostalgic feelings celebrating the holidays because your partner is not with you.
• You feel lonely.
• The holidays isn’t as enjoyable anymore.
• You check your phone constantly.
• You are aware it’s family time and you should just enjoy it and forget about him/her.

Being that it is the holidays, you are in the right step to thinking that family is most important especially at this time. Suggestions:

1. Leave your phone in your room and not in your hand or pocket or purse. Just leave it alone for the day until you actually go to bed. You don’t need it right now. Talk with your family instead. 
2. Help around the house. Help cook, clean up, prepare the table, play with the little kids. This is a great distraction.
3. Play and join the family games. Suggest playing games. Apples to apples, Yahtzee, Scrabble, Charades are fun family games.
4. Socialize. There’s always gonna be a couple people/family members that you don’t know so well. Maybe it’s time you chat with them too. Get to know them. At this point, you’re going to want to think of questions to ask them rather than questioning yourself about what your ex is doing.
5. By the end of night, you’d rather not go to bed. Because you know what will happen. So grab a freaking book for once. A magazine, look at some inspirational Tumblr and blogs. 
6. You’ll realize how tired you are from the whole day and fall in a deep, warm sleep.

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

1. Both of you are kind to one another. No competition, less fighting.
2. Arguments are more like discussions.
3. Both of you truly trust each other. No jealousy.
4. You both communicate. Open about feelings on both ends, talk about plans, sharing goals, etc.
5. You are both busy doing something on your own time. Whether it be work, hobbies, chores, etc.
6. You look forward to seeing them by the end of the day.
7. You smile at each other often. Still laughing at each others jokes and smart remarks.
8. You enjoy their presence even if they are merely watching TV or reading a book next to you.
9. You try something new every week together. Whether it be a new adventure or a new way of doing something.
10. You support each other.
11. You can live without each other for more than one day. That “can’t live without you” crap is just fucking obsessive.
12. You tell each other “I love you” or “you’re beautiful/pretty/cute/sexy/awesome/wonderful” every day.

Love,
The Relationship Addict 

• I think about making out with girls every time I’m drunk.
• I feel like having a threesome with that girl while I’m with my boyfriend.
• I am picky about which girl I’d hook up with.
• I love looking at pretty girls.
• I love boobs.
• I would eat out any Victoria Secret Model if I had the chance too.
• I ask my boyfriend to watch lesbian porn with me.
• I would date a woman with my standards.
• Women understand women.
• Women are emotional and very loving and very caring when you need them to be.
• I’m not a lesbian because I love my boyfriend and like having sex with the penis.
• Women are much easier to trust. This excludes sluts.

EARLY 2Os  - Someone you really like is clearly not over his/her ex. They have been apart for a year or two. You did a lot of flirting, went on little dates, even met their parents for the first time without really intending to do so. You bonded together so well, you finally knew everything about chemistry. It was all in the chemistry. They start talking about their ex and they begin feeling more comfortable talking about them in front of you. You take it because you want to listen, you’re a friend and you really care. Eventually, it annoys you bit by bit. You realize they subconsciously want someone like their ex. They say they are over him/her. You trust that they are. You sleep over, almost have sex, give massages, laugh and bond. You begin to fall for them. They say they feel the same way. But you realize you are more emotional with the subject and they are not. You feel as if they don’t like you as much. You back off a little bit to give some space for thought. And then…

• “It feels like I haven’t seen you in forever!”
• “Ditto”
• “Wanna hang out?”
• “I have some work to do tonight!”
• You think…No raincheck? :(

A month or two have passed with lack of talking or bonding or flirting and you realize what you two had was sort of like…a fling. You hate goddamn flings. Fuck flings. That was high school. You still have those feelings and still miss them. You don’t want to move away because you are afraid it WILL be just a fling. You accept his monosyllabic answers and over-delayed responses. You don’t text or chat with them anymore. You leave it be. Clearly, you were a rebound. And clearly, they weren’t over their ex. That’s too fucking bad.